Types of Anger
Anger is a behavior wrapped in helplessness and violence. An angry person perceives everything as a threat before any actual action occurs. Angry behavior often precedes the actual, planned event. Resentment begins with frustration, leads to anger, and eventually solidifies into resentment.
Anger: Is a natural behavior considered a means of self-protection and self-defense.
Anger has five characteristics:
1. Triggered (Booby-trapped): A behavior triggered by the smallest things, creating a sense of nervousness. The person perceives it as a threat due to an accumulated internal wound. For example, interpreting a delayed reply to a message as a lack of interest or care.
2. Displaced: A process of "displacement" where anger is directed at someone who is not the original cause of the problem.
3. Inward (Introjected): Directing behaviors caused by others toward the self, leading to self-flagellation and self-blame.
4. Masked: Exhibiting behaviors that act as a mask and do not represent the true inner feelings, such as bullying, excessive kindness, or sarcasm.
5. Psychosomatic (Somatized): Here, anger transforms into physical symptoms, such as Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), headaches, joint pain, etc.
Treatment:
1. Returning to the root causes in childhood.
2. Containment: Achieving desires or needs that were unfulfilled in the past, known as "compensatory desires."
3. Venting (Catharsis): Expressing painful situations. Any story that is not narrated becomes a fixed identity. Venting is divided into three methods:
o Speaking and narrating the story.
o Emptying through writing or recording a voice message (without sending it).
o The "Empty Chair" technique: Imagining the person concerned is sitting in front of you and confronting them.
4. Sublimation: Transforming socially unacceptable behaviors into socially acceptable ones, such as practicing boxing or other sports.